Never an Unloved Day

February 14, 2021

For the 23rd Valentine’s day in a row, I’m single. And before you start feeling sorry for me- I am 1000% okay with that! Because even though I’m “alone” this Valentine’s day, I know I have never lived an unloved day in my life.

There’s a lot of stigma around being single and it makes me really sad…

“You must be really unhappy? Have you tried E-harmony? Don’t you know your eggs are dying?”

Being married, engaged, in a relationship, or single should not be the thing that defines who you are. None of those relationship statuses are better than another.

I am so content with my life. I’m excited about my business, I’m excited about the things God is teaching me, and for the first time in my life I have so much clarity about who I am. I have chosen to be single for the past 3 years and those years have simultaneously been the best and hardest of my life. I’ve been able to deal with baggage from my past, I’ve gotten to be “selfish” and prioritize what I want, I’ve grown closer to my parents, I’ve gotten to travel the world, and I’ve been able to make decisions about my future without having to make sure they line up with what my spouse/fiance/boyfriend wants.

I definitely could have done/learned all those things while in a relationship- but God holds all our days and His timing is perfect. And while He has yet to bring me a romantic relationship, He’s put so many other people in my life that love and support me. And so until He brings me the right person, I’m going to patiently wait and focus on what He has put before me to do. Because it’s so much better to wait for the right man, who will pursue my heart, support my dreams, and respect me.

I hope if you are single too today, you’ll remember that God holds all of your days as well and that you have never lived an unloved day either.